Bettor Off Single: Why Commitment Is A Bad Gamble For Men

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Bettor Off Single:
Why Commitment Is A Bad Gamble For Men

BY RAY CHARLES GORDON

The PUA Bootcamp Field Report From Hell

This is an amalgamation of most fears, and actual complaints, from the "target" market of men who wind up complaining that they've been scammed, conned, or worse:

Heads Up Bros!! Stay away from MegaPUA! First I bought his book for $99.97, which was just rehashed stuff from the free websites, and common sense. I then tried his $999.97 DVD set, which was so bad I almost laughed, until I remembered how much I had spent. Hoping to finally justify my emotional and financial investment in all this, I paid $9,999.97 for a VIP bootcamp, which was held in a venue where MegaPUA gets a club promoter's kickback, and this HB8.5763 he kiss-closed let slip that she was paid fifty bucks and three lines of coke, just like that TV show paid her to be a plant at a fake nightclub. Then I asked for a refund, halfway through the first day, as they required, at which point MegaPUA began strangling me, while threatening to sue me if I gave a bad review. He then said if I bought his next DVD set, he'd cut the price in half to $1,500.00. What a guy! I declined his offer, and now, everywhere I go on the internet, I get threatened and harassed, plus they lie about me, but they say they aren't being paid by the gurus and I believe them since it wouldn't print if it weren't true like everyone knows.

Just Because YOUR Guru Is A Con Artist...

If you knew that Bettor Off Single would show you the way to getting the most beautiful women you are humanly capable of, you would purchase it in a heartbeat. Unfortunately, if you don't know what to do with women, you won't be capable of telling the good advice from the bad. This leads to customers using "emotional stereotyping" (a concept described in Bettor Off Single) in place of factual logic, with predictably disastrous results.

Ray's work selling gambling information has, unfortunately, prepared him for life as a seduction guru. Here's the Two For The Money version of the PUA scams:

HIM: "I need a winner. Help a brother out, man!"

RAY: "I charge for advice."

HIM: "No thanks, I already got scammed out of five grand by the last guy and I'm fifteen grand in the hole. I need a winner to bail me out."

RAY: "Let me get this straight: you gave five thousand dollars to one of my competitors, who sank you fifteen dimes in the hole, and now you want me to bail you out, free?"

HIM: "Um, Yeah."

There but for the grace of God...

What The "Seduction Community" Gurus Won't Tell You

Let's go lie by lie, omission by omission:

1. Stealth Marketing. Your "cool PUA blogger" friend who claims not to have money, and has a donation link on his blog is pulling down 50k a year or more in affiliate money, payola for good reviews.

2. Product Whoring. You'll often hear things like "the game has changed since 2005 and The Game and The Pickup Artist. Competition is tougher, and we must adapt." While this is always true, for any given point in time, what the guru omits is that a) his product offers nothing new, and was released b) only because he needed to sustain his "PUA lifestyle." Which leads to the next lie.

3. They get laid with the status and money that come with being "gurus," not with what they teach. Ray did not become a "relationship expert" in the 1990s secondary to any foresight of the internet market. That came in 1996; five years earlier, Ray began exploring PUA-style seduction, becuase Ray wanted something that worked, becuase I saw the methods used by the few PUAs I knew working, but most of all, for this:

HER: "What do you do for a living?"

RAY: "I teach men how to get beautiful women into bed, and [a later "PUA" addition] I teach women how to avoid the men I teach."

HER: "Oh really? How would you get ME into bed?"

Another favorite pickup line used by gurus on high-value women is this: "we have a lot in common; loser men pay our bills."

4. They got their "game" from OTHER MEN. Many men who never did "battle" with the world's sexiest women are merely theorizing about what works, or just parroting theory from someone like me, without any explanation of why the methods work, or how and why they evolved, usually to solve a specific problem, such as when Ray designed the pivot technique (debuted as "friendly fox" in Outfoxing The Foxes in 1998 and as the "pivot" in 29 Reasons Not To Be A Nice Guy, in 1999), to solve the problem of AFC "nice guys" who go out "as friends" with gorgeous women. In Ray's case, they resorted to plagiarism, or they would repackage the free postings (and commercial works) as "internet seduction secrets," or whatever. Now some gurus actually attempt to certify other gurus, as if seduction were now some accredited academic discipline (it is, but you need adavanced degrees in neuroscience).

5. They make their money off "whales." Do the math: sell one thousand e-books at $30.00 each, and you make $30,000.00. Sell a thousand bootcamps, however, and you make $3 million! The result is that most of the audience doesn't think of the message boards they are on as "commercial," becuase they aren't thinking of spending on a bootcamp. Instead, they focus on the free information put there to lure the whales, thinking they are getting useful advice, rather than "whale biat" marketing designed to get the few hundred people a year they need to make the millions. The bootcamp gurus also won't tell you that they encourage piracy of e-books, so as to harm their competitors economically.

About Bettor Off Single

In one of his more questionable short-term business decisions, Ray took the proceeds of the infamous Magic $20.00 winning streak, and all of 2009, to finish Bettor Off Single, his signature dating-advice text. The full year of reflection, on the cusp of middle-age, reads much like the memoir of a retired professional athlete, performing a meticulous post-mortem on his entire career.

Bettor Off Single's many lessons are framed against the backdrop of a biographical narrative of Ray's love life, beginning with his first kiss, in his early teens, and ending with his "last hurrah" a few years ago. With this text, Ray has "put a lid" on disclosures about his love life, as the "game" run by middle-aged men is of little theoretical value to men in their prime. One advantage Ray has over his younger rivals is that, because his "lay reports" and mishaps are up to a quarter-century removed, "target privacy" is much easier to protect, compared to a guru who cannot really write about his current relationship so easily. As for Ray proving his skills in the field, you're about twenty-five years late for his best nightlife work!

In Bettor Off Single, you will learn the following crucial seduction theory, in a logical sequence which you may easily apply to your own development as a PUA:

The Virginal Crash And Burn Mission. The "community's" "crash and burn mission" is based on the premise that a nice guy needs desensitization from rejection. He does, but he won't get this from bar sluts. With Ray's VCABM, the reader gets to try it "their way," by playing it clean, and seeking his soulmate. This leads to one of two outcomes: 1) marriage to your soulmate, or 2) rejection by your soulmate, and immunity to crumbling in the future. Since it's up to your "designated soulmate" to marry you, if she doesn't, you'll wind up a PUA.
The Valuable Coaching And Bootcamp Method. Just about everything Ray needed to learn about women, came from two "super-elites" Ray had designated as his soulmates. Each woman continues to thrive into middle-age, thus confirming the wisdom of their having rejected Ray. In the course of that rejection, however, they had to reveal their "A-game," since they were actually considering choosing Ray. The copycat gurus lack this critical experience. Until you've fought something like The Battle Of Kate, giving seduction advice is akin to describing what it is like to be a professional athlete without ever having been one. Should your "OTL" or "Kate" leave you a PUA for the remainder of the world, the lessons their heart-smashing rejection will leave all future "targets" appearing as fish in a barrel.
Reluctant PUA game! Since your The payoff! pharmaceutical-grade soulmate has rejected you, you have no choice but to become a PUA, and seek meaningless sex with beautiful women. This will make you the ultimate challenge, as long as you are truly commitment-averse.
The value of isolation. Instead of going out every week, Ray will show you how to improve yourself by leaps and bounds, during breaks from "the game." Think of this as learning what to do, when you have nothing else to do. Never be bored or unproductive again!
The Card Compatibility Analysis Tool (Card-CAT) converts all men and women into playing cards, with built-in rules for compatibility in temperament (suit), and desirability (rank). Learn the difference between an Ace of Clubs or Ace of Diamonds, and why every man keeps at least one Ten of Clubs in reserve. Learn to read women you just met, and how to avoid the many pitfalls which await the man unaware of how to play each hand they are dealt. This section also contains a humorous explanation of why love is not like chess, but contract bridge.
Emotional stereotyping and probing. Learn which "types" (stock characters) are in your target female's brain, against which she will match you to at least one, or create a new one (a big plus). Also learn how she uses the microscope to probe you for the information she needs to determine if you are the next man with whom she will be having sex. Regardless of method, most successful PUAs know how to "talk to the microscope," and survive the typical probe.
The three levels of seduction. Learn the key difference between how men and women derive satisfaction from interacting with the opposite sex. Never again be confused about where you stand, what she wants, or what to say or do. Women are extremely easy to read, once you know what to look for. Do you? ray does.
Hitting your true peak. Like a professional athlete, a true PUA will not peak until his late twenties to early thirties. Knowing that he would continue to improve at least until age thirty gave Ray the patience to remain in the game, through all ups and downs, for the fifteen years or so it took from his first kiss until his peak year, in the mid-1990s. By systematically improving your game, in large part becuase you will be playing better, against world-class targets, over time, you'll find yourself simply not making mistakes, which will cause your game to hit the stratosphere.
Alpha gimmicks. An alpha gimmick is one unique to yourself, or which reliably gets you laid. Most top PUAs have one; Ray has developed several over the years. His current one is the racetrack.
How to really turn her on. Learn some advanced techniques which will set you completely apart from your rivals. Very very few men ever develop a true understanding of female sexuality, or the role of sexuality in the average female. Learn the subtle difference in her definition of great sex. With these secrets, you can have her in bed in an hour; without them, she won't budget in a year.
Lifestyle integration. One area where seduction gurus excel is the integration of seduction into their lives, as many have gotten rich and famous while sharening their game much the way a professional athlete does in any sport. Any guru who spends forty weeks a year running game in nightlife venues should get pretty good over time. Becoming a guru is not the only way to integrate, but it is an efficient one.
How to turn the "friend zone" into the RED Zone. Super-elites, or those "pharmaceutical-grade women" that Ray chases, take their time in choosing men, something not the case for their lesser rivals. Learn why!
Long-distance game.Believe it or not, distance game can be easier. The key is the connection, not the distance. This has never been truer with internet videoconferencing now replacing traditional dating.
And more! If your stated goal of getting better with women is accurate, then